ASSUME

Just something I reflected upon. thought I wana share b4 going to zzzz

I used to assume alot (and sometimes I still do); things shld be the way they shld be, or people shld be feeling this way, or this shld be the rite way to do it, and often all these assumptions are made before they actually took place. And best still, often than not, they turned out otherwise. Even in our 8 years of marriage and now as a father, occasionally, both of us made assumptions, and at times, things get out of hand, we then have to sit down and talk things out.

So, what did I do? I am more aware and sensitive nowadays, stepping out of this self-centred perspective and listen. Just listen before making any decisions/judgements.

It is a difficult mental model to switch to, especially when I am quite strong-headed and very principled and worse, impatient (though I have mellowed down alot, probably age catching up LOL). But it is easy said than done, but it is a must-change. This mental model will also guide me in my journey as leader at work, esp when we talk abt buy-in, communicating strategic intent, tactical empowerment (do our colleagues want to be tactically empowered in the first place?)

But in any case, never made an ASS out of U and Me. (ASSUME) LOL

Listening (not hearing) is an Art, and listening more than talking in communication is impt. Work with the Heart before ratioalising, that's what I discover, more impactful than rationalising with reason before sorting out the Heart.

Do you feel the same? Do you have similar mental models or encounters?