Life of tests or test of life

So, i had conducted an assembly talk with the Yr 3 and 4, tagged it as "who am I? where am I going? picking up from failures".

don't know how much went into their heads, or they just see it as amusement or a kindaf priving into my own life, since i shared quite frankly abt my ups and downs as a student.

Anyway, used two videos about Kobe Bryant and Chris McCormack (since they are two of my fav sports idols in terms of their work ethics and their perspectives on failures and successes). after the talk, a colleague came to me and asked "do you know that Kobe was charged for sexual assault and it was settled out of court?" "he had committed a crime..."

I was abit apprehensive when I was thinking whether to use Kobe as i am aware of that case. But I thought about it and decided to focus on the positive aspects on how he bounced back from failures. I see this particular case as a failure and a terrible mistake that he had committed in 2003(mmm... now is 2009!! according to the internet, he admitted tearfully in a press conference with his wife by his side that he had an adulterous one-night affair, but no assault was involved). So, it comes to one's mind that, is he a good role-model for the young? or should he be given a second chance? or should he be banished from the surface of this earth because of this terrible mistake as a result of his lack of self-control? should we continue to ostracise those who committed crimes? (Remember the yellow Ribbon Project?)

Some educators (I would say including my colleague who came to me) would see him as a bad choice to be used in my talk because of this legal issue. So am I right or am I wrong to use him to talk abt bounding back from failures?

Somehow, we as humans tend to be problem seeking, always looking for problems, focusing on solutions to problems. Very rarely do we celebrate small successes and victories, and focusing on positive aspects. So, we encourage ourselves (me included) to look at misbehaviours, rather than catching others when they are doing good.

perhaps, it is time for all of us to reflect on ourselves. Look within ourselves rather than pointing fingers at others. Remember, when we point our index finger at others, three of our fingers are pointing back at us.

Everyone deserves a second chance, But the person must cherish the chances given to him/her.